somebody called us out for using transmisogynistic and ableist lyrics in this song, at the start of the 3rd verse. It has been triggering to people and has hurt people who have followed our music, hoping for something better than this. Although it was never my intent to use such offensive and exclusive words, this is the case nonetheless and i am deeply ashamed and sorry. So i want to make an apology to anyone who has been triggered or hurt by these words, to anyone who feels let down by us as your friends or as a band. Privileges are privileges no matter how hard we try to combat hierarchies and learned behaviour, and for someone who tries to do this, i still didnt recognise fully the consequence of these lyrics. At the time i wrote this song out of concentrated anger towards the actions of cis men and didn't consider elaborating on the point i was trying to make

if you are sharing our music, please take the time to remind people of the content and let people decide if they still want to listen. Its our responsbility to educate ourselves on how to practice non-hierarchal and non-oppressive ways of doing things, no one elses. However, i want to encourage people to call us out on shitty things if it happens. thanks to the original poster for doing this

i have marked the shitty verse with ///

Also C/W Rape and sexual abuse

There was a time when i believed that men could have their hold on me
that they could click their fingers and i would be the one to please
that my decisions would be stained with all the things they had to say
i couldnt leave my house my room without them standing in my way
but in the years to come
i"d find out all these ways to smash them down
to free myself of all the bullshit that i had built my life around

but still to this day

i'm terrified of what you can do to me
and this fear consumes me whether im awake or asleep
im aware of the restrictions that you have on my life
and if i defend myself with my fist or my knife
then you are there in the courtroom waiting to see me cry
well i am going to fucking cry!

so this year i found out that pretty much most of my friends
have been raped or abused in the dirty hands of cis men
that everything they knew and trusted crashed all around them
now they"re picking up the peices but they havent quite found them
so now we are trying to support each other
but we dont always know how
because from every angle we are faced with shame and disempowerment
and just when we think we are ready to live our lives again
well you go and do it again
you go and do it again
and still to this day

im terrified of what you can do to me
and this fear consumes me whether im awake or asleep
im aware of the restrictions that you have on my life
and if i defend myself with my fist or my knife
then youre there in the courtroom waiting to see me cry
well i am going to fucking cry!!

////well i know you like to think of the stranger in the alley
of the psycopath with no self control in the movies
i hate to break it to you but it may just be your son
your nice guy of a friend or your sweet loving husband
when our society raises us to take whatever we want
and that cis men are valid humans expected to be more dominant
that our needs only matter when we have a dick to assert them with
and that consent is just a killjoy word to ruin perfect moments with!////


if you dont get permission then that makes you a rapist
if they are drunk asleep your partner or last night they wanted it
there are no excuses and there are no blurred lines
so get the fuck away from me and let me get on with my life
cause it may take months
or it may take years
and there may never come a day where we dont shed our tears
but we are powerful we are beautiful
we are better than you will ever be
you better watch out for your fuckin life
cause you are now the enemy

and so from this day

you should be terrified of what we can do to you
on the streets and in our bedrooms the power no longer lies with you
if youre horny and you tell yourself that you are entitled
well tell your friends to come and visit you in hospital
cause you have to learn somehow these bodies are ours and ours alone
now do you understand when i say no?